I've never been a one trick pony but I've always been a list maker. When I think back to the inevitable question of "what does one what to be when one grows up...?" I remember lists and lists. Egyptologist, doctor for the W.H.O., Martha Stewart, Lounge Singer, Magazine editor...
This is still true today (especially the lounge singer position) but, for the first time in my adult life I'm feeling excited by the prospect instead of saddened or intimidated. Believe me when I say I have read almost EVERY self help book on choosing a career so I know the agony of feeling like you have no set direction.
If you're truly feeling lost on what your life's purpose is I suggest:
Lawrence G. Boldt's, "Zen and the Art of Making a Living".
Or if you want something less purpose driven, more action oriented, I suggest: "I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was" by Barbara Sher.
But you know, getting older does not inherently make you wiser and reading every career driven self help book will not make you a success... you have to go within to be able to listen to your true self. This requires a huge slowing down. Or in my case, an eternal vacate from the wedding industry.
Sometimes it's really scary to admit that there is not one, clear, linear, cut and dry way to get where I'm going. The reality is that life is fluid and ever changing. In reminding myself of this truth I can forgive the seemingly ambling part of myself that is always changing.
When you put all your eggs in one basket you miss opportunities for growth. I'm starting to think that even though it may be very risky, and everyone will think you're doing it the hardest way possible, it's more advisable to forgo the basket. Carry those eggs tenderly, next to your heart. Yes, they may slip from your grasp and shatter but dreams are fragile and you have to keep them warm and close. Carrying them tenderly just shows how incredibly precious they are.
Breathe, design, heal.
Whitney R. White stays inspired by her love of historical spaces, nature, beeswax candles, hand-made objects, comedy, coffee and visual storytelling. She is a connector, brand ambassador, reiki practitioner, inspiration sparker, and new mamma! She lives with her husband and son in the San Juan Islands. She used to teach floral design classes, yoga, and one day she'll dabble in clay.